On the heels of Valentine’s Day, I find it apropos to ponder thoughts of Love, Romance AND LUST!
My first love, at the tender age of 11, was Charleton Heston in The Planet Of The Apes. Go figure. Must of been pre-teen interest in a man running around with nothing but a loin cloth.
Since then, let’s hope my tastes have improved. I’m a total romance junkie. I love a handsome man with a chiseled jaw, athletic body and sensual eyes. Now don’t get me wrong, physical attraction is must, but humor and intellegence are mutually important, are they not?
My hubby is all these things! But that’s not to say my eyes don’t wander. Mostly over the pages of great romance novels and heart grabbing romantic movies and shows.
Put me in a room with Jonathan Ryhs Meyers from the Tudors and I could do some major damage. For my birthday next month, you could throw in Tom Hardy and Gerard Butler for good measure, if you feel so inclined.
Okay…so I’m day dreaming, what girl doesn’t? It’s these movies and romance novels that ignite my imagination! Who doesn’t want to be ravished by some handsome, rakehell duke? Or be kissed and made love to for hours by James Bond?
Think of the influence these romance sources have over our lives! We can learn a lot from them. Even though my imagination wanders, my hubby definitely benefits! I know he is ‘in the mood’ when he comes home from work with a Barnes and Noble bag filled with goodies from my favorite romance writers! He keeps telling me all the stuff I read is not real life, but he certainly doesn’t complain when I read just before bed!
So, if all this romance we read in books and see in movies is not real life, how can we make it so? How can we bring that romance into our own lives? How can we stretch ourselves to be that hero or heroine we most admire and make the most of our relationships?
My hubby and I work hard at our marriage, but we didn’t always. After 21 years we are getting to know each other again. Putting that extra effort into attracting each other. We have agreed not to sit idly by and settle for the status-quo. For example: he knows I love a nice arm band tattoo on a guy. He surprised me last summer when I returned from the Orlando RWA conference with the sexiest tattoo with my initial in it!!! Hot, Hot, Hot! Of course I reciprocated a year later with a cute little tramp stamp for his eyes only with his nickname entwined through it. ACKKK!! Now, hopefully I’ll keep my weight down so the damn thing doesn’t start looking like some ill-fated turnip.
I have to say, I didn’t decide to put all this effort into my marriage until I became interested in reading romance over the last few years. Say what you will, real or not, there is something to be learned from these talented writers that can be applied to real life to spice things up. I may not be able to be ravished in a carriage by the 7th Earl of Westwood (told you I love him, Renee!) but my hubby would look great in a pair of tight breeches and some shiny hessions. His ass is fine! Even at 47!!! Now, if only I could find a nice costume store….
What I have learned from romance novels and books:
1. It’s okay (sexy actually) for women to ‘let go’ and ‘enjoy the ride’!
2. An alpha male is great, as long as he has some vulnerability I can fall in love with.
3. A powerful personality can make any man unbearably attractive.
4. Clothes DO make the man (or woman). My man is much more likely to ‘get a little’ when he wears a nice fittin’ pair of jeans and a great T that shows off his tatt, than if he sports ill-fitting sweats and a sleveless flannel shirt and mudders…
5. A little jealousy goes a long way! I trust my man implicitly. So when a woman tells me, ’If I could have an affair with any man in this town I’d pick your husband!’ I find it renews my interest in keeping him happy. He becomes EXTREMELY attractive to me. (This actually happened to me, believe it or not…I think she was drunk…)
6. Complancency is the enemy. When my husband engages in something I’ve never know him to do or be interested in, it’s like I’m meeting a whole new person! Stretch your boundaries and let your sig-other see a different you, a new you. We are forever changing, and that’s a good thing. Recapture the newness.
What things work for you in capturing the attention of your love interest? (whispered words of encouragement? a special date? a specific scent?)
What turns you on? (thoroughbred athleticism? brainy businessman? shy nerd? young or old? a great movie with a hot love scene?)
Keep the romance alive, because life is too short not to indulge! Buy a racey romance novel to shake those feelings loose and LET GO!
A little David Beckham anyone?
PS. Hubby did buy me my first ‘thong’ a few months ago. It still has the tags on it. He actually had the audacity to hang the silly piece of string from the bedpost the other night as a reminder. I’m doomed to a wedgie, I’m afraid.