“Imagine half-naked men running through the streets, whipping young women with bloodied thongs made from freshly cut goat skins. Although it might sound like some sort of perverted sadomasochistic ritual, this is what the Romans did until A.D. 496.
Mid-February was Lupercalia (Wolf Festival) time. Celebrated on Feb. 15 at the foot of the Palatine Hill beside the cave where, according to tradition, the she-wolf had suckled Romulus and Remus, the festival was essentially a purification and fertility rite.
Directed by the Luperci, or “brothers of the wolf,” the festival began with the sacrifice of two male goats and a dog, their blood smeared on the faces of Luperci initiates and then wiped off with wool dipped in milk.
As thongs were cut from the sacrificed goats, the initiates would run around in the streets flagellating women to promote fertility.” www.news.discovery.com
Valentine’s Day should really be called Claudius II Day since during his rule, three martyrd saints were beaten and beheaded for acts of love and devotion, three of whom were all named Valentine.
Hence, St. Valentine – the patron saint of lovers.
Flash forward 1000 years and wa-la! Thanks to poets like Chaucer and the uber-romantic Duke Charles of Orleans who wrote the oldest exising Valentine in history to his wife just before she died (“I’m already sick with love, My very gentle Valentine), Valentine’s Day is now not so much about beating and flagellating and beheading, but all about the Looooooove…
So how do we spread love on one assigned day when we have been trying to spread it all year? At least we think we’ve been sharin’ the love all year….have we? Have I told him why I love him? Have I told her why she is special? Have I said how proud I am of what he did? Did I take time to really listen, and really respond?
Shit…why the hell does life have to get in the way and make me so complacent? Well…this is your chance to make it all up to your love, the one day we are reminded to show them our love and devotion.
In case you’re single, why not make it up to yourself! Be your own Valentine and remind yourself of all your wonderful qualities, strengths, weaknesses that you’ve been improving. Give yourself that special day at the spa, try a new haircut, get some hot new nails, buy yourself that book you’ve always wanted – You Deserve It!
Time to think outside the box for your loved one this year! ChickSwagger Style!
- Hit up LoveBooks online for The Quiz Book for Couples (fun quizzes to really get ot know your lover), Lets Get Naked (fun sensual games for you and your lover) or 100 Different Ways to Spend Time Together (nifty ideas to keep the romance alive!)
- Find a great photographer in your area and have some portraits taken of the two of you. My great friend Tamme Stitt at www.TammeStittPhotography.com does georgeous Budoir session that are fun, sexy and produce beautiful photos.
Tamme also hosts Goddess Girl Sessions which are a full day of pampering: hair/makeup and clothing makeovers plus a luscious massage by her wife Christene Spezio and a full photo session at the most beautiful locations in the hudson valley. She does Beautiful Me session for young girls to help build self-esteem. (see why I have such a girl crush on them?)
Then there are always the basic standby’s: Dinner, Renee’s Romantic movie in the nude, Misty’s Sex Position Party, Rachael’s Erogoneous Exploration, Angela’s Merkin Mystery and I’m suprising Mr. M with my very first brazillian! (I’ll post next time on my experience!)…(I wonder if a fifty-year-old naked ‘hooha’ looks the same as a twenty-year-old one?…Eeeeek!)
But enought about gifts…Let’s ponder LOVE.
Do you believe in Soul Mates?
Should one look for love or wait for love?
Is love generated from the heart…or from the mind?
Can one who is hurt by love, truly forgive if one cannot forget? Is love everlasting?
Hit us up with your philosophy on love. And more original Valentine’s Day ideas!
With Much Love!!!! Josie